Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world of people acting respectfully and responsibly; a world where people spoke the truth instead of distorting it? Wouldn’t it be nice if your relatives were role models and nice people? Wouldn’t it be nice if those who supposedly loved us actually showed it to us with their actions instead of just saying they do? Wouldn’t it be nice if people got over things and learned compassion? For those who don’t like me………guess what, I don’t like you either. The difference between you and me however, is I actually have a life and am so over your drama, self-serving agenda and narcissistic ways. I am blessed, I actually got over things many years ago and I thank those who also have moved on and now have a meaningful loving place in our lives. We adore you and you know who you are. For those who cannot and will not move on, it would be admirable if as role models you could do what’s best for the kids who are now adults and learn to keep your distorted views of life to yourself. Show the kids how compassionate, respectful adults behave. That is how loving, mature informed adults act. Since you cannot or will not behave in a way becoming of a kind person, I guess it is safe to say you really don’t have a life of your own. When put in that context I guess all any of us can do is pity and feel sorry for you. You are missing out of so many good things. I also pray for you because what a terrible way to live one’s life.
October 24th is my mother’s birthday. She turned 85 years old today and my family is very blessed to still have her and my dad with us. My mother is suffering from issues and at her age she is not alone, but generally she is fine. How do you celebrate a birthday when you turn 85? What gift is appropriate and what wishes mean the most? The gift of another day is one only God can give. The gift of time with loved ones is one that family and friends can give. I have taught my girls to seize the moment and make that memory. You can replace things and possessions, you never can get back lost time. I feel bad that my son has missed out on not only his sisters and me, but on his wonderful grandparents who have so much to offer. My mother asked about her grandson today on her birthday. Forgotten was the fact she hadn’t seen or spoken to him in eight years. Like the innocence of a child she asked how he was. I wish I could give my mother the gift of her grandson. Some time spent with the woman who helped raise him and who still holds onto the memories of his childhood. He chose not to attend his sister’s wedding and now he will be missing out on the birth of his niece or nephew but most importantly he is missing out on his grandmother.
My mother turned 85 years old today and I pray to God I get to celebrate many more birthdays with her, her grandchildren and her great-grandchild! Happy Birthday Mom!!!
September is quickly coming to an end and even before the last day of childhood cancer awareness month is over, ‘pink’ is already being promoted in the media. Magazines, advertisements, television and everywhere I look I am overwhelmed with ‘pink’. I understand raising awareness for breast cancer, I don’t understand the total lack of support or recognition of ‘gold’ and pediatric cancer. This evening while Tweeting to anyone who will listen to my plea to support childhood cancer, I came across a Good Morning America Tweet Special day coming up – GMA will #GoPink Oct. 1 to empower Americans in the fight against breast cancer. I have tweeted GMA along with many other shows, regularly about September being childhood cancer awareness month and I did not even receive a re-tweet. In fact, the ONLY celebrity who acknowledged pediatric cancer awareness is Mark Herzlich of the New York Giants who happens to be a pediatric cancer survivor himself. Everyone else has ignored my pleas.
So tonight on September 26th as I see a Tweet from GMA come across my Twitter feed, I find I am appalled and disgusted that children with cancer are the overlooked unsung warriors in the world of cancer. As the mother of a survivor, the co-founder of the Honeysuckle Foundation for Children with Cancer, the author of Alicia’s Updates A Mother’s Memoir of Pediatric Cancer and a spokesperson raising awareness I will Tweet, blog, write and speak until someone who can help me with this cause will listen!
September is National Childhood Cancer Awareness month, ‘Gold’ is its color because kids get cancer too!
Help! The country has lost its way and who cares? We have a government that spends and spends with no regard to balancing the budget or lowering taxes. We now learn the IRS which is persecuting and singling out conservative groups is using taxpayer money for parties, conferences and ‘swag bags’. If I ran my household in such a fiscally irresponsible manner I would be bankrupt and put out of my home! My not for profit The Honeysuckle Foundation for Children with Cancer, a 501(c)3 for the past 11 years had trouble filing our annual report this year with the IRS. It makes me wonder, is this a coincidence or is it due to the fact that me and my board members have conservative views and our willingness to share our views? Should we be afraid? Are the core values and freedoms that this country is based upon being taken away?
I believe in God and my right to say I do. I respect others rights to their beliefs, just please don’t tell me what I should be thinking or saying because it is politically correct.
Now we find out our cellphone calls as well as our internet surfing and purchasing are all being monitored by the government. I personally am alarmed and worried about these latest revelations. Are you?
I love this country and the freedoms I enjoy. I enjoy writing this blog and pray I will continue to be able to do so. I want my children and their children to also enjoy the same freedoms afforded me. I am very afraid however, and am even more afraid when the news finds celebrity misbehavior a more newsworthy story rather than our government running amuck.
Every day we have a choice to make; do something positive in the world or do something bad. Everyone of us has the opportunity to spark change, make a difference and to bring goodness into this world. Our actions however insignificant they may seem, are part of a master tapestry where each thread is an integral part of the whole. The Boston bombings and the events surrounding it are examples of the badness and evil that exists however, the heroism and commitment of the people of Boston is the more important story. Let’s not sensationalize and immortalize the badness of terrorists, but celebrate the lives of those lost as well as all of the people of Boston. Not only do we need to focus on the positive, we need to make it a daily part of our lives; in the doing, recognizing and sharing of good deeds. The simplicity of good versus evil is predicated by the choice we all make each and every day. A smile, a kind gesture or letting what could be perceived as an injustice go, these are all the small things that through the benefit of compounding, can make the difference in a world that lately has seemed to have gone mad.
What positive thing will you do today?
January 2013 is off to a quick start and another year is well on its way. There is a saying that time flies when you are having fun, so I guess I must be having a blast because weeks just seem to zip by. The new year is like a reboot for our lives, a chance to start all over again and set new goals. There are many who vow to lose weight, eat healthy and exercise. Being fiscally responsible is something our government should make as one of its goals and then there is the goal to be more philanthropic by giving more freely of our time and money for those less fortunate. Whatever the goal, it is a chance for each of us to examine those things that are not working for us and try to fix them. This new year brings lots of exciting change in my life with an impending graduation and marriage in my family. As I try to savor every second of it and etch each event into my memory, I am very aware just how quickly these life events will come and go and am just so thankful that I have wonderful people and events in my life to celebrate. I am truly blessed and my goal for 2013 is to enjoy every second of it! Happy 2013!
September is almost over and with it the hope that pediatric cancer awareness month would get national attention and major support. Cancer is a terrible disease no matter who the victim is young or old, but even more so for a child. The battle to beat cancer and survive becomes paramount when kids should be enjoying childhood and life. Unfortunately, there are those children who lose their battle leaving family and friends behind to deal with a loss that can never be healed. For those who survive their cancer, it is not without a life long cost of health issues and post secondary cancer risks. Cancer sucks! I have devoted the past ten years to pediatric cancer and raising money for psycho-social support and trying to elevate the cause to a national level it deserves. The inspiration and motivation behind my cause, soon to be 17-year-old Alicia, is the driving force. The Honeysuckle Foundation for Children with Cancer www.honeysucklefoundation.org has done some amazing things these past ten years and while we have had the ups and downs of not for profits, we will persevere and grow. Let Gold Be Told the newest branch of the Honeysuckle Foundation is Alicia’s personal quest to bring national attention to pediatric cancer awareness and a dedicated day for all of those who have been touched by pediatric cancer to unite, support each other and bring attention to the plight of pediatric cancer patients and families everywhere. We are growing and evolving. I am asking anyone with a story of pediatric cancer who will share it with us to be posted on Alicia’s Facebook page Let Gold Be Told to email to me. The hope or goal is every story is an important one and no one should be forgotten. Email me if you want to be part of our movement and let’s hope next year I will be writing about the success of our first annual Let Gold Be Told pediatric cancer awareness day!