What’s in a name? A nomenclature; a title or an identity? Names have a way of changing over time. At birth you are given one, at some religious ceremonies you get to add one, and at marriage you can change one. Who owns a name? Is it an entity that someone controls? For celebrities who establish brands it can be. For the common person however, it usually is not. With billions of people in this world, trying to keep a name exclusive seems ridiculous bordering on absurd, yet some people try.
Today my legal name is Rene A. Mount. I took my deceased husband’s name when we got married. He asked me to and I joyfully complied. He was old school in that it was important to him that we not only shared our lives, but that we share the same last name. After a long-term relationship this was a natural progression for us, that close family and friends expected and something we both welcomed. As most things in life however, living comes at a cost and my dear husband passed away. Our ten years of joys, sorrows, sickness, health, family, friends came to a halt upon his untimely death. I imagined myself in many roles, wife, friend, lover, confidante, partner but never as a widow. It has been sad, devastating and extremely uncomfortable. Life as I had lived it for the past decade would be no more. My new reality along with the reality of our children and grandchildren would move into a different phase. No more Ron asking when we were hosting the next party or what the next project around the house we should be doing. No more Sunday brunches with our daughters and grandchildren. No more trips to the casino with a car ride of commentary about how my love of slot machines was an absolute waste of money and time, trying to convince me to join him at the black jack tables. I lost my best friend and while I believed that the adversity of such loss brings people together, I witnessed firsthand the reality of adversity exposing the real character of some.
In order to preserve my husbands legacy that represents a lifetime of hard work, I will change my name. The name that meant so much to him should not cause the destruction of his legacy and all he accomplished. He married me for many reasons, but the main reason has become crystal clear to me in dealing with others. His words to me have taken on a prophetic meaning. He made me promise him things that I am committed to.
I loved and will always love Ronald Mount. His kindness, kindred spirit and desire to be surrounded by loved ones made him an affable person. He had faults as we all do, but a man’s desire to be surrounded by loving family and friends is the wish of millions. His desire to have his life honored and respected is something we all strive for. I will do the thing that you probably wouldn’t want me to do Mr. Mount, but in doing so I am committed to honor your wishes, preserve your legacy and give you the ultimate gift; respect of your life and your choices that you not only earned but deserve.
Signing off as Rene A. Mount wife of Ronald J. Mount.
Who are you and how do others view you? Are you the type of person that people love to be around, or are you the person that only finds relevance when putting someone else down? Do people relish time spent with you as a positive uplifting experience or do they dread every second with you? Do you find the best in every situation or do you consider yourself a victim at every juncture?
The choice is yours, how you conduct yourself and how the world views you. No amount of badmouthing will bring an honorable person down and no amount of puffery will make a decent human being out of a louse.
Another year has passed and another Thanksgiving is here. A day for ‘Thanks’, a day of reflection, a day for family. Yet this year the day crept up quickly and it doesn’t feel like it once did. Why? The world is a crazy place, the news confirms that. I lost my best friend and love of my life, so this is the first Thanksgiving without him, and I have had the misfortune of having to deal with some really bad people. The idea of giving ‘Thanks’ this year seems more of a challenge for me than usual. I wrote a list of all the good things in my life and some not so good, and by the time I got to the end, I realized I have many things to be thankful for. Sometimes we need to see them in black and white to recognize them.
Things I am thankful for 2015
My family even those who are estranged from me because they were all part of my journey.
Health for without it, nothing else matters and unless you have faced catastrophic sickness head on, you tend to not appreciate it. Not a day goes by that I don’t thank the Lord for continued health of my loved ones.
Home is where the heart is and where memories are made. A house doesn’t matter as much as a home does.
Friends are those people who love you and support you not matter what. I am blessed with incredible ones.
My team of professionals who have carried me through a difficult year because they believe in truth, respect and are willing to fight for it. They renew my faith in humanity.
My dog because sometimes all that matters is the unconditional devotion of a furry friend who’s enthusiasm for me is contagious.
Adversity because without it the good times wouldn’t seem so special.
God for my journey is guided by Him. I believe I can handle whatever comes my way because God gives me the strength and resolve to face anything.
Truth because it does matter.
Differences between people because it means I stand for something I believe in and not everyone has to agree.
Respect is being mindful of differences and acknowledging those differences. Today there is too little respect in both the world and within families. If families cannot respect one another what chance is there for the world?
Kindness extended to me and my family. The random acts of thoughtfulness and support from family, friends and strangers give me hope. I have faith that those who harbor hatred in their hearts will one day learn what kindness is.
Forgiveness for people who are hurtful and hateful towards me and my family. I cannot live a life holding onto grudges because that says more about me and has little to do with those who try to hurt me.
Peace is the ability to take myself to the eye of the hurricane when the storm gets too rough. Life can be tough, but we choose how to handle it. I choose to seek peace.
Perspective allows me to reflect upon the life that I have lived passionately and draw upon my experiences in order to keep things in perspective. Don’t sweat the small stuff nor the small people.
Karma because I know what we put out into the universe will come back to us tenfold, so everyday I strive to do good and know everyone eventually gets what they deserve.
The Lord is my light and my salvation—
whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?
2 When the wicked advance against me
to devour[a] me,
it is my enemies and my foes
who will stumble and fall.
3 Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident.
4 One thing I ask from the Lord,
this only do I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord
all the days of my life,
to gaze on the beauty of the Lord
and to seek him in his temple.
5 For in the day of trouble
he will keep me safe in his dwelling;
he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent
and set me high upon a rock.
6 Then my head will be exalted
above the enemies who surround me;
at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy;
I will sing and make music to the Lord.
7 Hear my voice when I call, Lord;
be merciful to me and answer me.
8 My heart says of you, “Seek his face!”
Your face, Lord, I will seek.
9 Do not hide your face from me,
do not turn your servant away in anger;
you have been my helper.
Do not reject me or forsake me,
God my Savior.
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
the Lord will receive me.
11 Teach me your way, Lord;
lead me in a straight path
because of my oppressors.
12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,
for false witnesses rise up against me,
spouting malicious accusations.
13 I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.
What are you thankful for; family, friends, good health? Thanksgiving is a day to acknowledge those things we hold near and dear to us, but did you ever wonder if others are thankful having us in their lives? Are our family and friends giving thanks for knowing us and being part of their lives? Does our behavior set a good example for our children? Do we live our lives in a way we would want our children to emulate? Are we compassionate, kind and forgiving? Are we respectful human beings who are able to put others before our own self interests? Do we make our parents proud?
I am thankful for my husband, all my children, our grandchildren, and my parents. I am thankful for our family and friends near and far whose presence in our lives has made us better and happier people. Although we are faced with challenges, I thank God for those people who help us find strength and comfort to face those challenges surrounded by love. They give us hope that we can handle anything and for that I am most thankful for.
It’s my daughter Lauren and son-in-law Michael’s first wedding anniversary. A year of firsts; first home, first holidays and first baby. Time moves on so quickly that we sometimes get so involved in the everyday routines that we forget to take notice of those special moments and they just pass. One year ago today Lauren and Michael exchanged their wedding vows to embark upon a lifetime together. Family and friends gathered from near and far to celebrate with them. Today Lauren & Michael will spend their special day with their new baby daughter and remember not only the past year of firsts, but dream, imagine and celebrate a lifetime of many more wonderful things that life has in store for them. Happy Anniversary Lauren & Michael!